ようこそ!自由の世界。

ここに私の空ですよ!
ここに多分大きくなかった、でも特別の世界です。
ここに悦子の自由の空だ!

YES! YES! YES!
yOU are stepping into a freedom world, without border......
AnD this is my place---- ETSUKO home!




Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Lessons of life......

The Turtles

A turtle family decided to go on a picnic. The turtles, being naturally slow about things, took seven years to prepare for their outing. Finally the turtle family left home looking for a suitable place. During the second year of their journey they found a place ideal for them at last!

For about six months they cleaned the area, unpacked the picnic basket, and completed the arrangements. Then they discovered they had forgotten the salt. A picnic without salt would be a disaster, they all agreed. After a lengthy discussion, the youngest turtle was chosen to retrieve the salt from home. Although he was the fastest of the slow moving turtles, the little turtle whined, cried, and wobbled in his shell. He agreed to go on one condition: that no one would eat until he returned. The family consented and the little turtle left.

Three years passed and the little turtle had not returned. Five years...six years... then on the seventh year of his absence, the oldest turtle could no longer contain his hunger. He announced that he was going to eat and begun to unwrap a sandwich. At that point the little turtle suddenly popped out from behind a tree shouting, 'See! I knew you wouldn't wait. Now I am not going to go get the salt.'

[ Some of us waste our time waiting for people to live up to our expectations. We are so concerned about what others are doing that we don't do anything ourselves .]

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The Frogs

A farmer came into town and asked the owner of a restaurant if he could use a million frog legs. The restaurant owner was shocked and asked the man where he could get so many frog legs! The farmer replied, 'There is a pond near my house that is full of frogs - millions of them. They all croak all night long and they are about to make me crazy!' So the restaurant owner and the farmer made an agreement that the farmer would deliver the frogs to the restaurant, five hundred at a time for the next several weeks.

The first week, the farmer returned to the restaurant looking rather sheepish, with two scrawny little frogs. The restaurant owner said, 'Well... where are all the frogs?' The farmer said, 'I was mistaken. There were only these two frogs in the pond. But they sure were making a lot of noise!'

[ Next time you hear somebody criticizing or making fun of you, remember, it's probably just a couple of noisy frogs. Also remember that problems always seem bigger in the dark. Have you ever laid in your bed at night worrying about things which seem almost overwhelming like a million frogs croaking? Chances are pretty good that when the morning comes, and you take a closer look, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about .]

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The Pretty Lady

Once upon a time a big monk and a little monk were traveling together. They came to the bank of a river and found the bridge was damaged. They had to wade across the river. There was a pretty lady who was stuck at the damaged bridge and couldn't cross the river. The big monk offered to carry her across the river on his back. The lady accepted. The little monk was shocked by the move of the big monk. 'How can big brother carry a lady when we are supposed to avoid all intimacy with females?' thought the little monk. But he kept quiet. The big monk carried the lady across the river and the small monk followed unhappily. When they crossed the river, the big monk let the lady down and they parted ways with her. All along the way for several miles, the little monk was very unhappy with the act of the big monk. He was making up all kinds of acussations about big monk in his head. This got him madder and madder. But he still kept quiet. And the big monk had no inclination to explain his situation. Finally, at a rest point many hours later, the little monk could not stand it any further, he burst out angrily at the big monk. 'How can you claim yourself a devout monk, when you seize the first opportunity to touch a female, especially when she is very pretty? All your teachings to me make you a big hypocrite The big monk looked surprised and said, 'I had put down the pretty lady at the river bank many hours ago, how come you are still carrying her along?'

[ This very old Chinese Zen story reflects the thinking of many people today. We encounter many unpleasant things in our life, they irritate us and they make us angry. Sometimes, they cause us a lot of hurt, sometimes they cause us to be bitter or jealous .. But like the little monk, we are not willing to let them go away. We keep on carrying the baggage of the 'pretty lady' with us. We let them keep on coming back to hurt us, make us angry, make us bitter and cause us a lot of agony. Why? Simply because we are not willing to put down or let go of the baggage of the 'pretty lady'. We should let go of the pretty lady immediately after crossing the river, that is after the unpleasant event is over. This will immediately remove all our agonies. There is no need to be further hurt by the unpleasant event after it is over.]

Science is organized knowledge. Wisdom is organized life.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

そうか。。。渡边淳一の『鈍感力』

多分一年の前に、この本を知っていました。しかし、ちょっと高いですから、買わなかった!
でも、最近この本の意味はやっと分かりました!
その思うはちょっと自分の性格が似ていましたよ!

だから、自分もまだ読まなかったけど、この本も紹介されますよ!

;)

PS:Internetからその資料を探して、ちょっと見てください!多分買いたいよ!紀伊国屋へ行こう?!







在目前竞争激烈、节奏飞快、错综复杂的现代社会中,如何处理生存、成功问题?

如何求得自身内心的平衡及与他人和社会的和谐相处?


首相不应凡事在意,钝感力十分重要。   
——日本前首相小泉纯一郎  

作家以自己的切身感受,体悟出感人肺腑的人生哲学,极富说服力。  
——日本《产经新闻》  

本书颠覆了敏感的人比钝感的人优秀这一社会常识。  
——日本《高知新闻》  

钝感力是生存在这个时代所必备的才能。  
——日本《朝日新闻-时代周刊》  

以人生智慧而言,钝感比过分敏感要强得多。  
——《日本体育新闻》  

在恋爱方面,诚实加上钝感力,可谓如虎添翼。  
——日本《东奥新闻》  


ps: picture gets from http://www.jsw.com.cn/frl/2008-12/08/content_1705874.htm


详细解说

“钝感力”一词其实是日本作家渡边淳一的发明。
按照渡边淳一自己的解释,“钝感力”可直译为“迟钝的力量”,即从容面对生活中的挫折和伤痛,坚定地朝着自己的方向前进,它是“赢得美好生活的手段和智慧”。
“钝感力”不等于迟钝,它强调的是对困遇的一种耐力是厚着脸皮对抗外界的能力。它仍是一种积极向上的人生态度。

渡边淳一在书中写道:“钝感”是相对敏感而言,由于生活节奏的加快,现代人过于敏感往往容易受到伤害,而钝感虽给人以迟钝、木讷的负面印象,却能让人在任何时候都不会烦恼,不会气馁,钝感力恰似一种不让自己受伤的力量

在各自世界里取得成功的人士,其内心深处一定隐藏着一种绝妙的钝感力。

在接受记者采访时他还说:这个世界不过是一场生存游戏,所以必须要有顽强的意志。而要保持甚或加强自己的生存能力,钝感力是必不可少的。与其有锐利的敏感度,不如对于大多数事物不要气馁,这股迟钝的顽强意志,就是得以生存在现代的力量,也是一种智慧。



紧接着,渡边淳一以自己的创作经历来了个“现身说法”:“当初还是文学新人的时候,经常遭编辑退稿,并受到严厉的批评。我对这些就很迟钝,只觉得对方不采用我的稿件是因为他没有欣赏能力。如果当时因过于敏感而消沉下去,也就不会再写小说了。”

真正的钝感,是指一个人对外界的刺激反映不明显,迟钝、木讷甚至麻木和习以为常




显然,这是一个平庸的人甚至对生活失恋的人对外界“和我没有什么关系的”的反应,她和敏感一样属于主观条件反射的范畴,对保持或加强个体的生存能力似乎没有多少意义。
而渡边淳一所谓的钝感,似乎应该是一种带有强烈理性色彩的有意识的行为。
换一种说法,即在某一个人表现钝感之前,他已经敏感地对事态可能的走向有了基本的把握,然后故意做出一个出乎对方意料之外的反应,从而让对方看轻他,忽略他,达到隐藏实力,保护自己的目的。

所以,这是一种充满选择和智慧的钝感,是一种人为的故意糊涂。


例文

  2007年4月
  渡边淳一

  第六章 得寸进尺的才能
  

有才能的人周围,肯定会有时常表扬他的人,而其本人也常因表扬而得寸进尺,这种“得寸进尺、得意忘形”的精神,不是所谓的卑鄙无耻,而是一种让人朝着光明的未来展翅高飞的原动力。
  

为了培养人们的钝感力,还需要“得寸进尺”的精神,换句话说,就是需要“得意忘形”。
  

一般说到得寸进尺、得意忘形,人们就会想到卑鄙无耻、令人羞惭的事情,其实许多时候这种精神却能从一个人的内心深处,给他带来很大的前进动力。
  

而且,首先需要一个给人称赞、鼓励,使他可以成为得寸进尺的领路人。
  

妈妈桑的一句话

那是我当新人作家时的事情。当时我正瞄准直木文学奖和芥川文学奖努力,希望更上一层楼。得闲时,我经常去西新宿的一家酒吧,就在一栋大楼的一层,是一家只有一个半圆形柜台的五、六坪大小的酒吧。
  

酒吧几乎靠妈妈桑一个人经营,她皮肤白净,个头很高,笑起来女高音般爽朗的声音回荡在整个酒吧之中。
  

每当我失去了自信或忧心忡忡的时候,就会一个人溜达到那里去。例如,我新写的作品已经交给了编辑,总在担心稿件是被刊登,还是被退回,有时我会对自己今后作为一个作家生存下去的信心发生动摇,那时我就会去那儿对妈妈桑唠叨。
  

“不知道怎么搞的,我总也没有自信。”
  

于是,妈妈桑肯定会毫不含糊地大声鼓励我:“不会的,你很有才华呀。”说着她的大手会“啪”的一下拍在我的肩头。
  

顿时我觉得肩头一阵发麻,同时我也
  ……



Friday, March 06, 2009

何谓“教者”?

Well, this article I done it a week before and unfortunately I don't think any media will agree with that and publish it out...

The moment I jot down the feeling whenever I faced the situation, even till now I still insist educator may have their personal stands or views in any kind of matter, however when it refer back to the education responsibility, everybody should be holds neutral stand.

May our young generation has the chance to KNOW the truth and IDENTIFY it with their wisdoms but not through the influences from any party/anybody......


停笔了许久,这一次真的是不吐不快;当然自己的不快之文可能会遭蜂拥而来的抨击、怒骂,可却不能因为害怕遭到如此对待,而不把真实想法公告天下啊!

少过24小时的时间,溜达、溜达的当儿,无意间却听见某某教育工作者口中发现了极端种族化、分裂主义、鼓吹“不爱国”论等等;耳朵听着、听着,是愈加心寒、是愈加忧心,脑袋里想的是:“天啊!这样的教育方式简直就是潜移默化地让我们的未来新生代变得极端分子、种族主义分子、无国无家主义分子。。。”

身为教育家、教育工作者、知识传授者,所扮演的角色究竟是什么呢?
是传授知识、是解答疑惑,是学生终身学习中的实践者以及指导者,更甚的是这一群人已经成为肩负社会发展使命的社会工作者之一。随着社会的变迁,他们的角色渐渐地加重、渐渐地多样化,但唯一不变的是“教授知识”这环始终不会改变

不管国家局势如何变迁、社会如何进步发展、人性思想如何重视权与钱,对于“传授知识”的态度始终不可以改变!教育工作者要明辨是非要踏实坚定要中庸思维、要不偏不倚,把知识传授予新生代,让他们有智慧、有能力去评断、去决定、去消化,再来培养出属于自己的思维、思想、想法!

值得注意的是,知识传授者没有责任将自己的思维模式、自己的想法远见灌输予新生代身上;他们是照亮人们路的明灯,不是负责搭上人生征途的那个人;换句话说,只有每个独立个体才是开拓自己人生的掌权人,余者都只是过路人!

“如果有机会可以飞向国外,就以一张单向机票离开,永远都不必再回来了!”
“某某人群可以获得这些。。。这些。。。某某人群又怎样。。。怎样。。。”
平心而论,当这些话语出自负责教育人类灵魂的工作者身上,是不妥、也是不对的啊!未来新生代可以是一张白纸,他们未来思维模式的塑造或多或少有会深受传授者的影响;当传授者不知不觉、潜移默化的将自己或者偏袒的思维模式灌输在日常传授知识过程中,那么你我都可想而知新生代的思维模式根本早已被定型了嘛!

这样,未来孩子们,能拥有属于自己独立的思维模式么?

我们必须承认知识传授者的专业付出精神,他们如实地让学习者了解事实的发展的确是功不可没的。身为新生代的学习者,每个人都要知道、都要了解真相、事实;可是真相的尔后思维想法并不是由任何人可以左右,是学习者本身才有责任、才有权利去表达、去定型!在没有让学习者有机会了解事实情况下,就决定了他们的思维模式,未来铁定制造更多的复制品,而不是创造品啊!

也许笔者没有资格去评论世界,但是始终认为,传授者可以拥有自己的思维想法(这是每个人所赋予的自由),可是在传授工作过程中,应该秉持中庸、踏实的态度,这样才是真正符合社会工作者的专业知识,让国家可以拥有真正的领导者,而不是跟随者。

Monday, March 02, 2009

308不是只有政治!

308这一个字眼已经与政治挂上了等号,仿佛谈到308就不能不谈论政治!但是这亦是一年365天的其中一天、它也是国际妇女节、它更是日本东京都营团地下铁日比谷线的铁道事故。。。而最最重要的是,它是一个母亲的生日。

308看起来好像真的是一个吉日,否则它又怎么会成为火红万分的字眼呢!针对308,笔者不谈政治乱势,反而选择“不谈”政治模式来表示对母亲的一份爱!

母亲是再平凡不过的母亲,默默耕耘地为孩子们付出,放弃了原本属于自己洋洋洒洒、自由自在的天空,成了为生活奔波忙碌、忧柴忧米的伟大母亲。
教育上,不应自己的才疏学浅而让孩子们放弃了继续获得知识的机会;经济上,为了孩子可以用心过生活而愿意奔波、愿意劳碌;政治权益上,也许不懂、或者不了解,但重点还是希望可以有公正平等的机会;文化上,更是坚定希望孩子可以保留属于自己的传统美德,或者不必墨守成规、不必保守封闭,可是却希望在发展与传统之间有一个平衡点,不偏不倚。

308是一个感恩的日子:感恩一直付出、不求回报的母亲在经过多少年来的辛苦劳累以后,终于可以放松一下脚步,缓缓地看看人生路上的小花小草,享受那一丁点的宁静平凡。在这一年的308吉日,额外感恩心态更是不可或缺;随着两年提心吊胆、忧心忡忡的308,这一次的确是可以漫步人生。逾两年时间的医院奔波让母亲重新了解健康生活的重要,同时也必须感恩、感谢政府医院内用心服务人群的医生、护士、医疗人员。

曾经担心政府医院的态度服务问题、更是忧心一窍不通的母亲会被欺负、担心这个、担心那个。。。可是,一切都过虑了。母亲,终究还是在两年后真正的放松休息人生。

人生中的确存在不公不平,但是不能因为这些隐性态度的存在,人,就要选择自我流放、自我放弃、怨天尤人、唉声叹气。。。
通过教育,人就能有所进步、成长;问题在于你怎么看教育!是要施舍而得、还是凭自我能力站在教育成功的平台?
只要双手健全,难不成你我就会饿死吗?经济问题难道就会存在么?人不是应该适应环境的吗?经济淡季的时候,不就应该缩减开支面对生活的么?
还有政治权益上、社会发展上。。。

身为一名中年女性,所冀望的要求是再简单不过的:平凡的生活、和平的社会、稳定的工作等等,坦白说,这些期望在近日实在是难以实现了!原因就很简单,国家政治绝对与人民的生活是息息相关的,国不安,家又怎能安稳,人更怎能拥幸福生活?

谈了挚爱的308,也发现此308的幸福美满是与彼308有唇齿相依的关系;要想让母亲的308真正可以获得幸福,那么就必须期待政治308能尽快稳定下来;没有纷纷扰扰、大起大落的社会时局,在全球经济迫切吃紧的当儿,再加上政治的兵荒马乱,人民要安安定定就是最大的幸福了!

管他是什么样的308,回归到人民的最终心愿,以人民的“安居乐业”要求作为基本出发点而已!这并不难,不是么?

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