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去寻找那生存的理由！

人，愈来愈脆弱了。
生命，变得愈没价值。
但，我们也可以理解为[没价值]可以转换成[无价]，而那[无价]所蕴含的意义更是非凡啊！

许多人或多或少都会有‘死’的念头，而付诸于行动的往往就是在一个‘当下’所发生与决定的结果；只是，这一个结果是没有机会更正、改变——做了，就成真了！

完全赞同看见从报章上的一席话——

‘我不想死，但是我找不到生存的理由。。。’（大意如此，句型或有变化。）

报章传达了一个重要讯息：

生命就是要去找到存在的理由和梦想，不能因为找不到而自我放弃！

自己是感同身受的，所幸自己度过了——虽然用了年余时间让自己的心智沉淀与悟透，但也未算太迟啊！

一场意外加上生老病死，短短数个月走了两位至亲，任铜皮铁骨也没办法承受，何况看似冷漠淡然的自己对至亲的执著从来就比较深沉、内敛，那份失去的揪心之痛更是无法言喻！
当然，生活自然是向前行的——自己走到了现在，任何的打击磨练都没有让自己选择放弃，死亡当然更加不会成为打败自己的元凶！

死了，留给生者的痛苦是无穷无尽的，而且那也是懦夫的行为啊！
死亡，根本解决不了问题。

理智的自己完全明白所有的所谓道理，自己的生活亦处理得当；但是，惟独自个儿明白：

‘我找不到生存的理由和目标了！’

坦白说，那种感觉很骇人，日复一日的活着，可是却没有生存的欲望。
因为出现了一种想法‘很多事情已经尝试了，现在离开其实也不为过’，感觉上人生就这样了！

一年多的时间，才慢慢地想通、慢慢地寻找生存的理由和目的。
感谢周边的新生命、新婚姻、新生活、新感悟等等，让自己一点一滴的找到了每一天生活的存在意义。
这样日益累计的搜罗，渐渐地看见大一点、大一点、大一点的生存理由，终于走过那一段惘然的黑暗。
心灵的沉淀亦成长不少。

是的，寻找那生存的意义就是生命旅途重要的生命目标，纵然了然一身恍悟那意义或者再简单、平凡不过，亦不枉已经走过的那一生！
因为那个过程就是生命的真谛啊！

网络上也看到了这一两句话，挺有深度的，愿共勉之。


人間は命があるから生きるんじゃなくて、生きたいと思うから命があるのよ。
——人，并不是有了生命才活着，而是想要活着才有生命！

生きることは息をすることと心臓が動いていることではありません。生きることは戦うことです。
——活着，不是呼吸也不是心脏在跳跃；活着，就是战斗。

Why Not Me?

Stepping into early thirty, got to admit that, I, myself did learn at least one life theory in daily life.

  - Always react with ‘Why not me?’ instead of ‘Why me?’

Bingo, right?
Everybody definitely has straight-forward reaction when any incident or obstacle happen, we always burst out and yell directly or maybe indirectly – ‘Why me?’
This is human nature, nothing wrong when we saying so, it just proved that we are just human!

But, couple years ago, I read something about this term from some ways or some places, it provided me a chance to have a deep thought – why we never say ‘Why not me?’ in life?

Human beings face any obstacle or any negative struggle in life, the first thought definitely will be blaming why they are the one who have this fate instead of accept the fate calmly and solve the existing problem.

Every moment when we are blaming ourselves as the victim position in any situation, we tend to gain the sympathy from others, pleading the pity from public seemed may ease the sorrow caused. However, don’t we handle and solve the problems by ourselves eventually?
Any other outsider manages to help you overcome those ups and downs?

The truth is none of them manage to offer the helps even the most intimate ones in your life. It’s because life is a lonely path, nobody in the world except your own self to experience it all by yourself. Simple understanding, you’re the only master towards your heart, your soul and your body, and that’s the reason you should use ‘Why not me?’ in your life.

For sure, everyone knows that it is not an easy job to make a switch of the thinking mind, and of cause it need time and experience to train. Maybe you may take the first step whereas try to kick out the mindset of ‘Why me?’ while facing any hard times. You may just to be calm and accept the happenings and immediately turn your thinking mind to the solution mode, it works for you to reach the path of saying ‘Why not me?’ more frequently.
This is definitely a life task.

As for me, I yet to reach the final stage, fortunately now I’m on my way to solution mode instead of ‘Why me?’ stage. To achieve the final stage, life training is always needed and I do stay calm to deal with that.

Hey, dear all, why don’t you just give a try?
Remember ‘Why not me?’ in your mind and try your best to apply it in your daily life; and you will sense the miracle appears in your life!

Love and bless you all!